I take on the baton of Blog Love from Mayuri.
So the conversation started off with a rant. Like they always do.
I was still reeling from a loud , over the top , ‘Happy birthday my Princess’ video declaration of two random people on my Facebook timeline & went on to read Imitaz’s observation about Social media taking out the pleasant mystery involved in Romantic Relationships . It struck a raw nerve & I tweeted out my thoughts on how Technology was killing the romance in our lives .
That’s when Maggie and I started to chat.
My point was we fall in love very quickly , coz we love the idea of love. But Romance is the real deal and I wasn’t talking from the standpoint of a married working mom . Romance is personal and intimate and takes a lot of effort. Technology and especially abundance has taken the fun out of wooing.
Maggie’s point was Love was still awkward and complicated . Which I don’t think is true . Love to me is one part fairytale and one part trigger-happy hormones. Romance is the real deal because it takes effort.
Some confuse the act of making an effort to that of making a spectacle . Outrageous or understated , whatever be your style of expression – we both agreed finally . It has always been about the effort.
Which brings me to the question , how this post is remotely connected to Blog Love? We are getting there. I am putting in the effort – can’t you be a little appreciative?
So I realized , how every love story that became the epitome of romance , apart from ending quite tragically of course , involved so much effort in the good old days. There were stolen moments , there were these long letters , there was us against the world and what nots. Thankfully creating tacky Facebook videos wasn’t a thing back then so people actually went the extra mile . A case in point being , the cliché but classic Romeo Or Juliet or the modern girl’s handbook to life ‘Pride & Prejudice’ .
So my Dear Blog , I may not have written sonnets for you or made promises to be by your side till eternity . And even though ironically Technology brought us together & Social media has to a certain extent become a third wheel . I agree that we may have grown out of our initial enthusiasm of updating each other on our everyday lives and even celebrating milestones together . But over the last 9 years , like an old couple , we are comfortable in our silence and thrive on every ounce of attention. Be it an angry rant or an ecstatic soliloquy , we listen , we talk , unselfishly .
And in doing all that in our own little way , we have made an effort to be a better version of ourself for each other . We have accepted our flaws with an open mind & taken each other beyond our capabilities. I think there is and always has been a deep love between you and me [ and I can most certainly say , it’s a projection of Self Love or something as romantic as that] so it’s time to bring the Romance back in our lives !
I pass on the baton of Blog Love to Ramya Rao.