When I had not read as many LeanIn articles and was simply finding my way & voice around the blogosphere , I remember being consumed by an idea . Women need to build their tribe.
I had rarely felt so strongly about women in politics as I did when I read Barkha’s open letter to Smriti Irani . Setting aside their long history of differences , Barkha candidly appreciated Ms Irani’s strength & achievements , yet also called out her hypocrisy as a Feminist in a power position. It was a mature piece of writing , that tread a razor sharp path with utmost clarity in its approach – No matter what our ideologies are , women need to stick together when our identity , voice or space in under threat .
I never really wrote about it . I over-read and over-thought instead finally to conclude , whatever had to be said has already been said by so many of us in pieces such as this one by Jaibala.
Last week I realized how wrong I was.
While I observed a 20 year old’s courage under fire from the sidelines , consciously not adding to the noise , I made mental notes of who said what and who stayed silent. There were men who applauded , defended , ridiculed , abused & threatened her. There were women who celebrated her stand. But save the already vocal ones , most women in power positions were conspicuous in their silence. The Phogat sisters to my dismay were agitated by the virtue of their region being dragged in the debate than their gender.
But let’s not talk about Social media , very few people take it seriously enough as a platform for expression as much as they do for entertainment. Let’s talk specifically about women at workplace .
Have you noticed how the rituals concerning men and women are so different when it comes to dynamics at work . Women ‘gossip’ during bathroom breaks , men ‘talk shop’ over smokes. The former is seen as frivolous and the later just an extension to their personality . Men tend to compartmentalized business and personal relationships beautifully , for women one seamlessly interweaves with another -so if one goes sour the other goes down with it. Hence , women at workplace rarely are friends with peers. Insecurity , threat or just a strong sense of competition often comes between them . Moreover to be seen as popular and ambitious at the same time is also an unheard of notion for us . Our labels are either Ms Congeniality or the Bitch , there’s no best of both worlds. Ironically , when it concerns our friends , It’s a different story altogether. Like Priya Ramani rightly points out there is no topic that is too personal or out of bounds for our friends and these friendships become lifelines for us. So , why not friendships beyond close groups?
Incidentally , if I extend the idea of ‘workplace’ to Blogging , my hypothesis falls flat on its face . Over numerous soul baring chats with some fabulous women I’ve met through blogging my belief has just grown stronger . Friendships and camaraderie are possible irrespective of how well aligned our interests are as much as they can be in the absence of a common thread that binds us .
Least common denominator at work , relationships & beyond should be our Gender. Our passion. A Sense of Sisterhood.
Imagine a world in which , two blogging divas collaborate to create the perfect Valentines’ day saga .
Her content wakes you up in the middle of a night and question your intent in blogging at large. It threatens to keep you down for days given your lack of inspiration and clearly visible mediocrity. But in the mix somewhere you find yourself, break shackles of this very Ghetto and suddenly find your own ways. – Writes Richa in her guest post for Shinjini’s blog.
Just like two music divas marking a historic moment in Grammy’s , unheard of in the entertainment Industry.
“I can’t possibly accept this award,” Adele said. “I’m very humbled and very grateful and gracious, but my life is Beyoncé.” Said Adele as she graciously acknowledged Beyoncé to be more deserving .
And the countless women in the foreground , like Michele and behind the scenes , like the secret face group community supporters promised Hillary a determined #IAMWithHer & they continue to do so .
It’s said , it takes a village to raise a child . It takes Sisterhood of the most fabulous kind to raise women beyond their capabilities. It doesn’t matter how our ideas are shaped , the passion for telling stories & expressing opinions runs between the #WomenOfBlogging like a charm .
It’s International Women’s Week & if you’ve written a post about being a woman or a special lady in your life , link it up here & experience this charm.